Quotes on Nudity

Adam and Eve entered the world naked and unashamed – naked and pure-minded. And no descendant of theirs has ever entered it otherwise. All have entered it naked, unashamed, and clean in mind. They entered it modest. They had to acquire immodesty in the soiled mind, there was no other way to get it. The convention mis-called “modesty” has no standard, and cannot have one, because it is opposed to nature and reason and is therefore an artificiality and subject to anyone’s whim – anyone’s diseased caprice.”   Mark Twain, Letters from the Earth

What is outside yourself does not convey much worth; Clothes do not make the man, the saddle not the horse.”  Angelius Silesius

What spirit is so empty and blind, that it cannot recognize the fact that the foot is more noble than the shoe, and skin more beautiful that the garment with which it is clothed?”  Michelangelo

There is no better way to get to know yourself than to experience the world of nudism/naturism. Putting nothing between you and nature is truly a way to come to know who you really are and how you really feel about yourself; inside and out.

There is no way to describe how you feel when you are one with nature. The sun seems to feel warmer, shine brighter. The wind doesn’t feel angry and a nuisance but rather like a gentle set of hands massaging your body. Your stresses will be set free, your sanity will return, and you will wake each day with new determination. You will really feel as if you are “somewhere over the rainbow.”

Nudity is a great social equalizer for class and wealth distinction. There are no Macy’s vs. Wal-Mart’s. Nudists are real people who don’t pretend to be something they are not. These people generally like and accept others as God put them here. Nudists are people who believe that there is good in people who hide only behind their souls and not in material things.

And don’t worry about your body. There are no ugly nude bodies, only bodies with different shapes and sizes. You’ll be surprised at how comfortable you’ll become with yourself. You will FEEL accepted as you are because you will BE accepted as you are.

It is the best thing that has ever happened to me. When life gets me down and I feel stress building up, I don’t turn to drugs, alcohol, or any other short-term answer; I turn to God, I turn to my husband, and I turn to nature. Those three never let me down.

Try it. If you don’t like it, you can always put  your clothes back on….”   P Parker

Nudity frees the body as meditation frees the mind, permitting us to be who we are. Being comfortable with private nudity requires a certain level of self-acceptance. Social nudity requires yet a higher level of self-acceptance, plus it offers us the added benefit of being unconditionally accepted by others. It allows us to relate to others without facades, pretentiousness or artificiality. The resulting sense of well-being is beyond compare. As is meditation, nudism is one of the most powerful tools for healing, self-discovery and spiritual growth available to anyone.

Nudism is a lifestyle that, in and of itself, not only fulfills all the criteria’ of a ‘growth experience’ but also serves as a beautiful metaphor. Indeed, the shedding of our clothes is a metaphor for shedding attitudes and perceptions that may no longer be needed or appropriate. Accepting our God-given bodies is symbolic of learning who we are at levels yet to be experienced.

Nudism has much to offer in the way of growth, but it is seldom thought of in those terms. Unfortunately, stemming from our society’s puritanical views of the human body and sexuality, nudism is one of the least understood practices in our society–often falsely associated with promiscuous sexual behavior. Misconceptions such as these, coupled with a general lack of reliable information, have kept nudism in the closet and out of consideration as a legitimate form of recreation, therapy or spiritual practice.

Daniel D. Ziegler, Naked Before God  (1999)


Gender Balance Concern

“It is not the job of the facilitator to supply you with enough people of the gender you prefer. It is the job of the facilitator to create and hold the safety for you to explore, experience, learn and enjoy. I have seen many people gently explore being even just a little close to the ‘wrong’ gender and discover a whole new sense of heart and affirmation. In fact, some of the most profound learning and healing has come in these situations.”  Betty Martin, Cuddle Party Facilitator, www.cuddleparty.com

From my first pujas in the Denver area, there has been a hyper concern about the gender balance of my events, mostly from potential male attendees. Unlike any other spiritually oriented event, I often have more interest from men than from women. This worry was not the case in Austin, and I’ve theorized on why there are such stark differences between the two cities, but that is for another post. For now, I want to say that this event is not about sex, therefore, not about gender. It is about connecting with other human beings, no matter what their container happens to be, and meeting at soul level: Big Love. It’s about cultivating kindness, compassion and connection with people as we learn healthy boundaries and conscious, loving communication. In Heart Puja, we play with the dance of masculine and feminine energies which are present in each of us, individually, and are not limited by the physical body we happen to inhabit.

The gender balance issue has been a point of great frustration to me, and in the past, if it looked like I was going to have an imbalance, I’d put out a note, seeking participants of the ‘lacking’ gender. Then I’d have an imbalance in the other direction. I gave up this stress some time ago. I have become highly skilled in working with whatever number and balance of men and women attend, and I can present pujas to any group of people, from retirement home residents to yoga studio patrons, to church congregations. THE GENDER OR ORIENTATION OF THE PERSON IN FRONT OF YOU DOES NOT MATTER. What matters is the experience of ‘meeting’ each other in present time, with no agenda, other than seeing soul in each other’s eyes and communing in a sacred space of compassion and love. This is how the heart opens and heals.


Tantric Puja Morphing into Heart Puja

I’m thrilled with the direction our events are taking. After much thought and prayer, I’ve closed Tantic Puja with our last event of the year on December 12th, 2009. My first Tantric Puja took place in Austin in August of 2004. It has been and continues to be my BLISS to present these most precious events. I feel that the name change is bringing a new energy and accessibility for more people. The event will be the same – just a new name. I made this decision because, sadly, Tantra as it is being presented in our current ‘pop’ culture is causing great misunderstanding, and preventing people from having access to the ancient and empowering teachings of sacred sexuality.

And now, Heart Puja is born! We are continuing the events in Boulder through the summer, with monthly dates set until school starts again in the fall.

Valentine’s Weekend is our debut in Boulder. I’m looking forward to seeing the Longmont community present with us there, and I also see the future: Denver men and women coming to Boulder and yes, Boulder men and women coming to Denver! I know all about the ‘Boulder Bubble,’ having visited Denver maybe three times in the six years I lived in Boulder. I’m certain that this cross-pollination can only be good. And I look forward to watching the Boulder community expand and grow, as we’ve seen in Austin and Denver.


Tantric Puja = Tantric Orgy?

On December 12th, 2009, we had our last Tantric Puja. I had been conducting these events first in Austin, TX and then in Denver since August of 2004. In Austin, I set the standard for this type event and rarely had anyone that thought it would be anything other than safe, respectful and comfortable for all participants. Sadly, this has not been the case in Denver. “Why would I want to come to something where I’ll be oogled and grabbed?” a young woman asked.

I’ve struggled to understand how she gained that assumption. Tantra has been a part of the Boulder landscape since Charles and Caroline Muir, founders of Source Tantra, began offering workshops here in the early 90’s. Evidently, events conducted under the heading of “Tantra” have not all been presented with a foundation of safety, consciousness and kindness. My first teachers, Robert Frey and Dr. Juliana Dahl, were masters at creating an environment where people felt safe to explore their personal edge, allowing deep work to arise during group activities. Robert was known as the “Mister Rogers” of Tantra, and he has been my model for how I want to teach, in both my private sessions and my events.

Sexuality is core stuff. Everyone has been sexually abused at some level, by lack of information and by our sick culture. Most family systems have a sexual predator/ perpetrator within 2 or 3 generations. Our educational system does not allow the teaching of sane and compassionate information for young people. The general cultural climate promotes a juvenile, locker room mentality about sex and pornography, offers only images of base or ‘animalistic’ sex, and makes it seem that sex is all about athletic positions, sex toys and a lot of friction. There is so much more to lovemaking, but how do we learn? We learn by finding sacred spaces where we can safely cultivate the arts of intimacy, connection and healing. We have to step out of the old paradigms and recreate new ways of being together in intimate encounter.

At every puja, I take the time in our opening circle to talk about the grim statistics in our culture. One in four women, and one in five men has experienced sexual abuse by the age of 18. In a group of 30 people, we can assume that there are several who have been wounded in this way. I strive to create a climate that is safe for the most wounded people in the room, so that we can all be comfortable, and learn from these individuals how to respect and honor their journey of healing.